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7 Jun

Positive Self-Affirmations: Is There Science Behind It?

Blog Contributor / Be Empowered

Photo by Keegan Houser on Unsplash

Positive self-affirmations revolve around a fundamental principle. It posits that maintaining a positive self-view can translate into tremendous physical manifestation. But with a primarily mystical process, is there a scientific basis for people to believe in such? (Critcher and Dunning 2015)

Self-competence trumps difficulties.

As long as people trust themselves, anything is possible. Problems become mere obstacles which are easily overcome. However, this value can be tricky to achieve due to its distinctive nature. Not to mention, the self is often one’s biggest enemy.

Self-competence depends on and is measured by how people perceive their skills and abilities. The higher their trust and acceptance of themselves are, the higher their self-competence becomes. When people know and find assurance in their strengths and weaknesses, they begin to view themselves positively. They set realistic expectations for them to achieve and trust themselves to achieve such. With self-competence, people never waver despite mistakes and failures. Instead of taking these too personally and beating themselves up over them, people perceive them as stepping stones for future improvement.

Self-confidence is everything.

It helps people cope and bounce back whenever they crumble against the lemons life throws. With this amount of trust, people can better nurture their growth, not dwelling on failure.

How Can One Cultivate This Competence?

Someone praising themselves for being amazing seems bizarre and often narcissistic. But over time and with better means, one may believe such and live to their potential. Seeing is believing. But when it comes to psychology, saying can turn into believing.

This is the primary concept for positive self-affirmations or affirmative cognitive behavior therapy. In its basic definition, self-affirmation is a means of validating oneself. Regardless of the threats and problems people face, positive self-affirmations work when people believe and tell themselves to believe in their capabilities and skills.

How does this work?

According to research, the body has a psychological protection system. This is a combination of defensive mental strategies that work to protect the individual’s self-esteem. Self-affirmation is a contributor to this protection system. A perfect example of this manifests whenever people rationalize their mistakes. When people associate positive outcomes with their hard work but blame external factors for adverse consequences, they’re unconsciously protecting their self-worth.

While there may be some critical perspectives toward these defensive mechanisms, it’s a crucial process so people can maintain their well-being. The more they safeguard their worth, the fewer the chances of them questioning their capabilities.

“I’ve failed to achieve this not because I’m incapable but because of other factors.”

“This failure isn’t my fault. I have done my best. I am enough.”

What Exactly Are Positive Self-Affirmations?

These affirmations are simple statements to change or influence one’s perception of themselves. In simple words, they challenge an individual’s existing self-concept. They encourage people to think the opposite of what they or society might have made them believe about themselves, creating self-change.

Positive self-affirmations can act as inspiration or a simple reminder that one is worthy amid creeping doubt. They can also be statements geared toward one’s daily goals.

“I am confident in myself.”

Affirmations are designed to nurture within people an optimistic mindset to protect their sense of self. These statements are inherently crucial in the reduction of people’s negative thoughts. The chief basis of this theory’s effectiveness is the belief that the constant repetition of affirmations can shift people’s mindsets, leading to positive behavioral outcomes.

This is why positive self-affirmations occupy a powerful place within Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). As this therapy focuses on the connections between people’s thoughts and actions, self-affirmation effectively bridges these elements.

With self-affirmation, thoughts have the most influence over people’s behavior. What they think influences how they feel and how they do in behavior.

The Science Behind Daily Positive Self-Affirmations

Positive self-affirmations intervene in people’s doubt, restoring their self-competence (Critcher and Dunning 2015). Although merely statements, these allow individuals to recognize and acknowledge their self-worth and core values when self-doubt rises (Steele, 1988). Again, self-confidence and realizing that the self is enough to triumph over adversities can help actualize their potential.

Ultimately, the fear that they won’t amount to anything stops people from stepping into their potential. Before they even take a leap and try anything, their doubt blinds them from seeing what they’re capable of. Positive self-affirmations challenge these negative and typically unhelpful thoughts (Koole et al., 1999; Wiesenfeld et al., 2001; Logel & Cohen, 2012).

Believing that the simplicity of repeating words can do wonders for the human mind can be challenging. But this concept of positive self-affirmations is based on psychological theory. Like meditation improves one’s well-being, repeating affirmations’ effectively is based on close associations with the mind. It’s maximizing the mind-over-body principle. It’s the belief that when people feel good and think they’re good, then life will follow.



7 Mar

Believe in the I’mpossible

Michelle Shine / Be Empowered
What is something that is supposedly impossible that you believe in?
~Or~
What is something that is supposedly impossible that you could believe in?

During our ascension to 5D it is important to believe in the impossible. The energy of believing in something you want that is supposedly impossible, is invigorating and that is the exact energy we want to cultivate for our transition to 5D. The 5th dimension is all about thriving, harmony, peace, abundance and almost unreal manifestation! Imagine like a child. See it as real, feel it, totally pretend and see how you feel. It’s seriously fun!

So find something to believe that turns you on and have fun with it.
Not impossible — I’m possible!

See it in your inner garden and Believe in the I’m possible! ❤



25 Sep

Co-creating Heaven on Earth

Michelle Shine / Be Empowered

In this incredible time on planet Earth, we have the opportunity and responsibility to co-create the highest timeline we can imagine for all ~ Heaven on Earth!

It is of the highest importance that we focus on that which we desire to experience!

Your imagination is one of the most powerful forces you have access to.

Albert Einstein said,

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

Your imagination is truly creative and this creative nature has been backed by a plethora of legit scientific studies (for list of citations, see our Research page and the References section of our book, Mana Gardening).

Below  is a YouTube playlist of 7 guided meditations (+1 bonus) to focus your attention on the life and world you wish to experience going forward.

Add your focus and attention to that which you want to create by listening to these guided meditations. Day 1- 7 each focuses on a different aspect of Heaven on Earth so you can get specific with the universe as to what you are desiring.  As we imagine it and feel into it, we create it.

THANK YOU for ADDING YOUR LIGHT to the co-creation of HEAVEN ON EARTH for ALL!

Details of each meditation:

Day 1: Relationship between Gaia (Earth) and Humans

The focus of Day 1 is the creation of a heavenly relationship between Humans and Gaia. How do we treat Earth’s trees, animals, plants, the air, rivers, oceans, mountains and resources?

Day 2: Relationships between Humans

Co-create New Earthly relationships, the ones between ourselves and others. Imagine the highest timeline for relating to one another one-on-one, in families, tribes, and communities in Heaven on Earth.

Day 3: Divine Human Systems (healthcare, finances, education transportation, etc.)

Envision and co-create how human systems work (or are no longer needed) in the New Earth reality timeline. Sustainable and healthy transportation, communication, education and healthcare are highlighted.

Day 4: Your Personal Relationship with the Divine

Imagine and feel the creation of your own personal relationship with the Divine Creator/Infinite Intelligence/ God/Source. You will feel a potent connection with the Divine and be able to call it forth more deeply from here forth.

Day 5: Personal Growth and Evolution

Day 5  involves imagining how our own personal evolution will flow. We also dive into how we might be of service and help others in their conscious evolution process in the Golden Age.

Day 6: Envisioning Healthy Communities

Day 6 focuses on Communities. How do we interact, how do we make decisions, how do we support one another? Visualize and feel how you want experience community/tribe in the new earth timeline. Yum!

Day 7: Basking in Completion

Day 7 is the day of rest and completion. Bask and feel the fruits of the previous days of creation as you are blessed and appreciated. It is done. Re-imagine your favorite images to give more energy to those creations.



10 May

Grandma Replaces Memories to Empower Herself

Michelle Shine / Be Empowered

My grandmother, a.k.a. Nanny, shared with me today that she used a mana gardening technique of replacing memories. She didn’t put it like that of course, but as she told the story, I realized that’s exactly what she did.

IMG_9995Nanny lives in a place with many other elders. The elders get together and share their stories of the past quite frequently. Instead of telling her story of her traumatic upbringing along with divorces and illnesses etc., she shared that she had a very loving, caring mother and father and had a very fun and loving childhood. She also shared that she had a wonderful husband who died young and they had a loving daughter who was very well cared for and nurtured.

In mana gardening, there’s a technique where you replace a non-empowering story with an empowering story—one that makes you feel good instead of one that makes you feel traumatized.

So without knowing it, Nanny gave herself the gift of feeling good instead of putting yourself through the memories of her tragic childhood and marriage! She shared with me that the purpose was so that she wouldn’t have to go through those emotions again. Some may consider that being untruthful,  however, I see it as a gift to herself and her wellbeing. Had she told the dramatic stories, she would’ve felt the negative emotion again and likely would have had to share many more details that would enhance the negative emotions. She just did not want to put herself through that again.

Every time we re-tell the story of a traumatic event, we inadvertently live it again. We experience all the emotions as if it just happened (like right now) as opposed to many years ago. That is how your mind sees it and that is how your body reacts.  Neurologically speaking, she created a new neurological pathway that, if she re-tells the new empowering story a few times or perhaps many times, has the opportunity to become part of her memories and enhance her well-being by leaving her feeling fulfilled with her life, rather than like a victim of a crazy life.

Such techniques, shared in the book Mana Gardening, Empower Yourself and Live a Better Life, have the power to help you replace memories that are potentially harmful to your wellbeing, with memories that benefit you and keep you happier. These are also excellent topics for the fields of Mana Psychologyand Mana Sciences.

And as you know, being happy is paramount to healthy vibrant living!

Get your copy of the book and to learn Mana Gardening happiness techniques.

Namaste,

Michelle

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2 Apr

Using Inner Guidance to Make Decisions

Michelle Shine / Be Empowered

 

Decision Making Can be Super Simple if you Use and Rely on Inner Guidance.

 

How do you normally make decisions? What is your process?

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Do you make a list of pros and cons? Do you play out each outcome and see how each might feel? Do you waver back-and-forth not knowing what choice to make? When you have an important decision to make does it keep you up at night? Does it leave you feeling flustered and doubting yourself?

 

I used to do all of this.
After Mana Gardening came to me (rather, after it came through me), I stopped all that and began to rely solely my inner guidance for making important (and not so important) decisions.

 

Mana Gardening is an inner technique using your creative imagination that allows you to quickly and easily access the inner voice that lies within. Everyone has an inner voice specifically designed to assist in everything from what food to eat, to where to relocate. Your guidance is personal to you and directs you towards actions that are consistent your best interests.

 

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As an example, recently I was offered an adjunct teaching position at a local college and had to decide whether to take the position. It was for teaching a single class, as opposed to multiple sections of the same class. I was excited for the opportunity to teach at this college as I had applied for full time opportunities there before and was not selected. At this point in time however, my mental mind was saying, “No way!” It was not worth my time, not enough money, and would take way too long to prepare for each class.

 

I took this decision straight to my inner garden. After relaxing in that space for a bit and asking whether or not to take the position, interestingly, my inner guidance said, “Yes, do it.”
I did it. I agreed to teach the class, reluctantly.
I did this because I have learned to trust my inner voice even when my mind conjures up many good reasons to not listen to it.

 

Who knew that my consulting jobs would start to dwindle? Who knew that I would love my students so much? Who knew that I would adore the opportunity to inspire the students and let them know how amazing and immensely intricate their bodies (and hence they) are?

 

My mental mind was not aware that I would enjoy the material so much that it would be inspire me to serve others on the health and well-being path.IMG_0194

 

My mental mind was not aware that the connections I would make with the students and colleagues at the college would be so beautiful. And that the opportunity to serve others would also serve me. My inner voice knew all of this, yet my mental mind did not have access to that information.

 

Inner wisdom is available to all, yet many do not know how to access it. Learning how to quickly access inner guidance and getting to that place where you listen, trust it, and take the appropriate actions can serve you to your great delight! It is kind of like listening to your heart or a higher power speak. Sometimes you get information that is not what you’d expect, yet it is inconceivably brilliant!

 

Plus, using your inner guidance to help you with choices and decisions saves you the time and energy of going back and forth, creating lists, and doubting yourself. Your inner voice knows what you want. Allowing yourself to trust and follow your inner voice helps you stay at peace within, creates strength and leaves you empowered.

If you would like to learn how to use this ancient Hawaiian technique we call Mana Gardening to empower yourself and your life, register for our training course starting Aug 2o17 here.

Namaste,

Michelle
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17 Feb

Choosing Positive over Negative

Michelle Shine / Be Empowered

Today as I was pulling out of the chiropractor’s office, an older lady, walking rather quickly on the sidewalk, caught my eye. She was clearly talking to me but I didn’t really hear what she was saying. It was something about the bus. As I waved her over, she asked me for a ride because she had just missed her bus, it would be an hour before the next one came, and she was too tired to wait.

I noticed a bit of an old automatic reaction starting — a feeling of being bothered by the request. I decided NOT to choose that autopilot reaction. Shifting quickly out of that and into a feeling of compassion and service, I said, “Sure hop in!” I had no idea where this woman needed to go but she said it was pretty close. Here she was in my car, a kind woman in need of a lift so she could get a nap at her friend’s apartment before having to go back downtown to get in line for the next meal. It turned out she only needed to go about a mile. We wished each other a Happy Valentine’s Day and she was off. It felt really good to have helped a sister out!

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What I find so interesting is the automatic nature of negative responses, or responses filled with ‘what about me’ energy. It seems we actually have to consciously CHOOSE the positive over the negative.Another interesting point concerns that moment of choice. If we are aware, we can notice and then choose to follow either a negative-feeling energy or a positive-feeling energy. Both options are available in any moment and the fact that a negative one showed up first is not ‘bad’ and I’m not ‘bad’ for having that thought. The positive-feeling energy was right there for the choosing as well. It’s simply a matter of choice.It’s about BEING the change you wish to see in the world. So consistently decide to practice BEING positive: keep choosing positive-feeling responses, keep choosing service, and keep helping a brother or sister out!Much Love to You,Michelle



4 Aug

Complaining? Want a Great Trick to Stop?

Michelle Shine / Adult Be Empowered

Do you notice your mind making complaints that make you unhappy?
I notice these things, too.

After feeling pretty good for a while, do you suddenly not feel that good anymore? If so, then take a look at what was just going on in your head and you may see why. I bet your mind has been busy complaining, resisting, and/or procrastinating. (Like my mind does…)

This morning on the way to the gym, I was feeling in good spirits. I had already done my morning mana gardening meditation. Then in the gym,  I caught my head saying things like,

 

“I don’t want to be here…”
“Ugh. How fast can I get outta here?”
“Why do I always have to move the squat bar holders up a few notches?”
“Why can’t people put the bar cushion away in the right place?”

 


Felt my energy going downhill and my mood going south.

Noticing my complaining mind,  I decided to do something different.

My intention was to switch my thoughts to change my focus from complaining to something higher that would feel better. The answer I recieved was really helpful, so I was guided to share it.

 

Asking Questions

First off, let me explain about questions. Many of us know this, yet our minds keep playing this game and we don’t always catch it as quickly as we would like.

If you ask a question, the universe works to answer it.

With that said, always (or at least as much as possible) ask questions you really want an answer to. Questions, that when you learn the answer, you feel good about.

Do NOT ask questions like:

  • Why is there so much traffic?
  • Why are people so huffy today?
  • What is my problem?
  • What is wrong with me?
  • Why does this always happen to me?

 

Because you will get the answer at some point and it won’t feel good and it likely won’t serve you to know it anyway. Ok, so that’s the deal with questions. On with how to stop the complaining mind.

 

Here’s the Trick

Here’s a great trick when you notice complaints flowing.

Ask a NEW question.

Ask,  “What do I LOVE about this?”

When I asked that question in the gym, my mind was flooded with positive, feel good answers!

 

—I loved that it’s summer and I rode my bike to the gym and simply took off my helmet and started working out. Loved that I didn’t have to wear 4 layers and head to the locker room to de-garb before working out. Loved that today, that part of my life felt easy.

—I loved that my muscles were building strength and I could feel it.

—I loved that my body could even do what I was asking of it, that I was healthy and feeling powerful.

—I loved that I could drink great tasting filtered water and not chlorinated water there.

—I loved that I was there and that others who were taking care of their bodies were there as well.

 

Then my mood/energy started to shift back up into the positive realm. This is because, instead of focusing on the answers to my complaints and negative questions, I was now focused on a really healthy plethora of awesome answers!

What a great question to ask!

The monkey mind is bananas (well actually it’s nuts!) and works hard to keep us in a negative space, so we have to have some tricks up our sleeves to help us stay true to highest nature. We have a right to be happy! Hope this trick helps you!

Next time you notice the mind complaining about something, just ask,

“What do I love about this?”

Or ask questions you really want the answers to and see what you get. Bet you will feel much better!

Namaste,
Michelle



3 Feb

Mana @ work & love!

Keti / Be Empowered

 

@ work:

Throughout my life, I have been required to attend meetings that drone on for hours, and hours. I am sure you know the drill: your boss goes on and on about nothing.  The senseless complaints are long, the hot air is choking. The only thing that gets accomplished is a waste of your valuable time. I once sat in a two hour business meeting where our CEO explained a basketball story that went something like this.

The coach said, “Only throw the ball overhead.”

The all star player said, “If I do that I won’t make the shot.”

The coach said, “Do what I say, right or wrong.”

The team lost every game,  but they did learn how to do what they were told.

End of story.

 

What was the point here?

Do what I say, win or lose, right or wrong?

Seriously?

This pretty much sums up my career with this company:  we lost a lot of money, but our CEO got a big fat bonus every year.

Sound familiar?

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Anytime I wind up in a meeting that serves no purpose, I reflect on that basketball story.

It really could be so different, it really is easier than this.

 

There is a simple Mana Gardening-inspired method that goes like this:

Send out an email to stating the problem.

Say, “Short meeting- each person has to present a one sentence simple solution.”

“As your boss, I will start the meeting with my solution. We will take only a few minutes to discuss solutions and choose some to try, the meeting will take less than 20 minutes.”

A CEO should be held responsible to condense the problems into one sentence statements and they should be able to present a one sentence solution to every problem.

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@ love:

We should use this same simple approach.

Ever been greeted with the phrase “We need to talk”?

This statement makes me want to cry. I know we are about to play the spin our lives upside and ruin everything good about right now game.

Your loved one is unhappy and does not have a clue what is really wrong or what they really even want.

Next time you find yourself in this place, try this:

Instead of talking, think of a one sentence statement of the exact problem plus a one sentence solution.

When you find those two sentences, then ask your loved one to try the solution together.

What a wonderful world it could be…

The mind, body and soul is a garden, our actions and thoughts are like seeds, let us water the mana, and pull out the weeds.

Keti